Having a Relationship with Myself !
Over the years , I realised that I have been busy having relationships or creating relationships with everybody around . Well , that is how we humans have been told to have a good pleasant life .
I realised that I too want to have a good relationship with myself ! I want to live my life on my own terms ! It took me sometime to understand what ' my own terms ' meant !
I realised that I too want to have a good relationship with myself ! I want to live my life on my own terms ! It took me sometime to understand what ' my own terms ' meant !
By default , we acquire alots of information , knowledge , conditions , beliefs and so much more from everybody around that I realised had little relevance as to how I wanted to live !
Living on my terms means that I want to have my choices as to how I want to live deliberately .
It does not happen just like that . In fact , living on ones terms can be very challenging as everybody around wants you to live on their terms ! They set the rules and agenda as to how I am suppose to live or conduct myself .
I realised that if I don't take charge of my life , somebody is going to decide how I should live. They will control , manipulate and corner us to live to serve them and their purpose ! There is always some agency out there waiting to take over your one good life that you have !
Biology wants to replicate the genetic material , culture will make sure that we propagate it's values and institutions . Other people will try to take as much of our energy as possible to further their own agenda -all of this without regard to how any of this will affect you .
We cannot expect anyone to help us live , we have to discover how to do it ourselves !
We acquire habits without even being aware if they are useful to us !
I had or have so many habits that really don't serve me much . I . of course , have been made to belief that those are good for me or for my awareness to my life and living . I will share with you just one to illustrate my point . I used to get up and go straight to reading the newspaper ! I will want to know what is happening in the world . I must listen to the news too ! All these life centred around the media maybe good but it also has some very unhealthy side effects ! I get up feeling peaceful and contented with the starting of another wonderful lovely day . I enjoyed my quiet moments in my inner stillness .
I appreciate the magic of little things and am grateful . A bird's sweet song . The freshness of the morning . The smell of a warm toasted bread . A cup of coffee . Everything is just right or even perfect ! ( whatever that means ! )
This one habit can pull me away from my peaceful and fulfilled life ! I am talking of rushing to read or hear the news ! Being sensitive , I can easily become concerned , upset , worried and even angry with the way our world is being run ! That's it ! My peaceful morning is now in tatters !
The day I decided to do away with this habit of wanting to know the news , I found a whole new peace that was always around me ! Let me share with you what happened when I first stopped going for the news . I actually had withdrawal symptoms !! I started getting worried . I started feeling fearful . I had all sorts of concerns about nothing in particle . I really had to reassure myself that all will be okay. The world can go on very well without my input !! What a nightmare or daymare I had to go for the first few days !!
Now , some 4 years later , I cannot understand the fuss we actually make over so many issues !
I have not read a single newspaper since than ! Has my world stopped . Has the real world stopped ! I am still as sensitive as before or even more so now ! With my inner peace , I can feel more .
I do get a quick glimpse of the news on the TV and that's it . Now , I am in control . I am more connected to the issues of the world now than ever before . This is just one habit that I over came and felt that I have a better control of my life . There are many more that I will share as we go along .
This is enough for today . My main point is to be aware of the fact , that we need to take control of ourselves or somebody will do that for us !! In fact , it is already happening !
Take care of your self and get closer to yourself . Learn to FLY ! First Love Yourself !
Til we meet again , take care .
And , yes , please love yourself !
Good night .
Amar.
I had or have so many habits that really don't serve me much . I . of course , have been made to belief that those are good for me or for my awareness to my life and living . I will share with you just one to illustrate my point . I used to get up and go straight to reading the newspaper ! I will want to know what is happening in the world . I must listen to the news too ! All these life centred around the media maybe good but it also has some very unhealthy side effects ! I get up feeling peaceful and contented with the starting of another wonderful lovely day . I enjoyed my quiet moments in my inner stillness .
I appreciate the magic of little things and am grateful . A bird's sweet song . The freshness of the morning . The smell of a warm toasted bread . A cup of coffee . Everything is just right or even perfect ! ( whatever that means ! )
This one habit can pull me away from my peaceful and fulfilled life ! I am talking of rushing to read or hear the news ! Being sensitive , I can easily become concerned , upset , worried and even angry with the way our world is being run ! That's it ! My peaceful morning is now in tatters !
The day I decided to do away with this habit of wanting to know the news , I found a whole new peace that was always around me ! Let me share with you what happened when I first stopped going for the news . I actually had withdrawal symptoms !! I started getting worried . I started feeling fearful . I had all sorts of concerns about nothing in particle . I really had to reassure myself that all will be okay. The world can go on very well without my input !! What a nightmare or daymare I had to go for the first few days !!
Now , some 4 years later , I cannot understand the fuss we actually make over so many issues !
I have not read a single newspaper since than ! Has my world stopped . Has the real world stopped ! I am still as sensitive as before or even more so now ! With my inner peace , I can feel more .
I do get a quick glimpse of the news on the TV and that's it . Now , I am in control . I am more connected to the issues of the world now than ever before . This is just one habit that I over came and felt that I have a better control of my life . There are many more that I will share as we go along .
This is enough for today . My main point is to be aware of the fact , that we need to take control of ourselves or somebody will do that for us !! In fact , it is already happening !
Take care of your self and get closer to yourself . Learn to FLY ! First Love Yourself !
Til we meet again , take care .
And , yes , please love yourself !
Good night .
Amar.
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