Social Media Relationships !

Social Media Relationships !

Social Media relationships are very new to me .

I decided to become active on the social media about 3 months ago . I just felt that I wanted to share and learn from other across the planet. I also felt that with my years of studying about human behaviour , it will be a good place to see how we humans are really like everywhere. I had arrived at my own conclusions about humans across all religions , cultures and races that we are basically the same ! It does not matter what colour of skin we have . It also does not matter what our external status is really ! 

Social standing , status , wealth , power and all other trappings that we have or surround ourselves with has very little bearings to our core basic human nature . Security , fear , pride , envy , anger , 

jealousy and most other feelings and emotions remain the same across all humans . Love matters!

With this awareness and understanding , I wanted to expand my experience . I also saw and had experiences that relationships as relatives , close friends , and others was the same . Even between

parents and children there can be misunderstandings. Between brothers and sisters , between cousins and aunties or uncles .

So , in reality it does not matter who or what you are ! We all have experiences of being misunderstood or getting into arguments or fights with our loved ones . 

How or why does that happen ? 

My simple and basic understanding is that each of us is an individual that lives with other individuals !

As individuals we form a social system to live together or work together or even worship together !

Then we all get labelled as sons ,daughters , mothers ,fathers , uncles , managers , priest , monk , nun , kings and queens and the list goes on and on ...!

These are just labels but most people identify with these labels and make their reality around these labels !

Just to give you an example, a mother is just not a mother ! She is some ones daughter , sister , cousin , friend , auntie and the list goes on . Basically , she is just a women with all the labels thrown at her .

Her desires , fears , feelings and other thoughts and feelings are just like any human !

Coming

 to the social media , it is the same story !!

We are all humans from all corners of this planet wanting to interact with each other for varies reasons . Mostly to connect and share !

Social media is a platform where we build or create a social group in which we can exchange our needs , desires , passions , likes and other areas of interest .

We build a network of like minded people with common interest .

Call it whatever name you like , it is at the end , simple people wanting to connect and share their feelings and thoughts in a safe environment .

We all sit at our laptops or PCs daily to share and exchange feelings , thoughts and more with like minded humans . The terms and conditions are simple . Earn respect and give respect ! Love and be loved ! We want to have real people , honest ,sincere and authentic people !

We are tired of playing games !

I came to the social media with simple respect , honesty to share whatever I

can . Take it or leave it , nothing personal . I have no need or desire to hurt anyone and get hurt . You like my style , thoughts or whatever , that is it . Otherwise just let go and go look for others that you may find to your taste .

That is it . Simple and share or care without getting stressed and complicated .

That is my simple reason to be on the social media . To build relationships with love and respect .

I have lived long enough and need no reason to play any games .

That is my simple reason to be on the social media .

Will end now . Till we meet again .

Take care, Love .

Amar,

Love caught between Beliefs around the World !

Love caught between Beliefs around the World !

Pictures speak louder than all my words today !

A beautiful feeling of love as been caught in our never ending beliefs!

Some people are celebrating love with exchanging vows , some are hugging , others have placed locks to lock their love ! Some will swing , some will fall and rise in their excitement ! Than there others who feel their love is being stolen by other cultures ! Poor Love at cross-roads ! Enjoy. Amar.

Uproar as young giraffe put down at Copenhagen zoo !

Uproar as young giraffe put down at Copenhagen zoo

Relationships are Forever !

Relationships are Forever !

Let me tell you why I say that relationships are forever ! Now , if we go into such issues if they were good or bad or close or far , that is just another aspect of relationships . you are still relating to them in which ever way you want to call it . They just become a part of us !

I want to start with my personal story . 

I lost my father at a rather early age . He was just 49 years and I was 25 years . If you had read my early blogs , you will understand how I came to be with my father as he was slowly slipping away from us . It was a great maturing process and that has made me who I am today ! Every major event shape us and molds us . 

Nearly 41 years have gone since I saw or touched the physical body of my loving father ! That is a long time in any sense . I am going to be 66 years this year ! Older than my father ! My father being a father never experienced being 66 years ! He died so much younger . I , sitting here am attempting to think or feel what does it mean ?! I can now feel a kind of fatherly  feeling towards my young father !

I know it is a strange thought ! A son feeling a fatherly emotion for his father who passed away so long ago !

Let me share another wonderful secret about us when we really get in touch with our real or authentic self . We start having feelings that become gender neutral !! What I mean , is that sometimes I get motherly feelings towards situations and people ! I have actually watched all kinds of feelings arising within me ! Sounds weird ! Well , that is how I feel and experience life ! 

Coming back to my relationships forever topic . Time or even space has some hold or control on the physicality of we humans , but that is all !

In the non physical plane , we are always united and one ! Never separated ever !

I always feel so close to my father always !!

That feeling has never left me ! 

In the same vein , I may be separated from my loved ones by space , but I am always connected !

I have meet some very old dear friends after a very long time and the feelings were intact ! 

On the other hand , if there are some relationships that did not go well , they too remain with us some where within us always ! 

As we keep thinking and developing this feelings , we will realise that we can go on expanding our feelings far and wide !!

I have come to blogging and the social media Google+ only recently . Yet , I can tell you that I feel really connected to so many people that it gets me thinking what does it mean !!

One feeling that is constant , is that it matters ! 

I may not have met them personally , yet , they have become part of  me !

Not seeing them on google+ or sharing their post , makes me wonder if all is okay with them !

Relationships are not bounded by time and space . So, if that is true , than we are more non physical than we realise or understand !

We are vibrational energy beings that are always vibrating ! 

Will talk about that some other time ,but , sufficient to say , that being aware of that makes us realise how our feelings and thinking can influence each and all of us !

So , honour and respect and cherish the relationships that we are !

We are constantly relating and relationships are always going on !

Thank you for taking time to read . Take care .

Till we meet again .

Amar.

How I Relate to Everything Is My Choice !

How I Relate to Everything Is My Choice !

I am going to share a small story how we are all capable of creating our relationships with everything

and everybody ! The way is to decide that you want or have come to a decision on whatever values , beliefs , thoughts and feelings you have . It is you who has to sit and come to that way at being in the world . 

I will give you my personal simple examples :

1. Somehow I had a soft corner for ants . Even to the extent of leaving some sugar out for them ! I just enjoyed watching them come and carry those sugar grains away .  If there were ants in the bathroom , I will try to get them away or if I started my shower , I actually will make the extra effort to rescue them from drowning ! I know it may sound crazy or out right funny ! I enjoyed and really felt good . I have watched ants standing on their two hind legs and dry themselves before walking to their family or their task ! These little creatures are so amazing and social insects ! 

However , I had a different relationship with cockroaches . I use to go after them and spray all those nasty toxic chemicals .I saw the poor cockroaches getting paralysed and dying . It was hurting to see them die .

I  Decided to also feel and love the cockroaches ! I just did some inner work , where I realised that it is the same life as mine , just in another form ! I quietly asked to be forgiven for my past crimes against them ! Yes , you are allowed to laugh ! 

Than I started the same feelings towards cockroaches whenever I saw them ! I just wished them to go or gentle guided them away . 

After a few days , I actually noticed that very few roaches came to trouble me !

Now , an amazing thing happened ! One night as I came to my place and switched on the light , there was a big cockroach in my kitchen . It was not running away ! I was quite surprised as they always or usually ran whenever the lights are on . I let it be and went inside my sitting room and sat on my sofa.

Then I saw the cockroach crawl under the door and and was coming towards me !! That was really weird ! I started to wonder was was happening here . The cockroach actually came to me and touched my feet with its feelers . I just sat there and watched ! After that It went away out of the door !!

Now , I was just shocked and amazed . That was no ordinary action ! The cockroach actually connected with me without any fear whatsoever ! It felt safe and became friendly .

That day taught me a wonderful lesson that you can relate to anything and it will relate back to you in the same way !

Love is love across the Universe ! Let it be a plant , animal , bird or a fish ! 

This small story is just a point that I am making , that Life is life and if we can become aware or understand that , than wonderful and amazing experiences can take place !

Just bring love into your life and see the miracle that happens .

Will end this short blog there , but , please ponder !

Till we meet again , take care . Love.

Amar.

Love - My Energy Drink !

Love - My Energy Drink !

Let me talk of love again and again ! It is really worth sharing and talking about love !

I will not define love . I will simply share my experience of love . 

Instead of taking some personal view , I like to share how it feels to be in love .

Love is such an amazing expression we humans have that just being in love takes us into another dimension ! We are living here very much in the same physical world as others , yet , we are on some other non physical plane where we feel and see everything so differently from the rest of humanity that are not having the experience of love !

When we are in love with someone or with some other state of being , we feel a sense of being contented , satisfied , fullness , complete , whole and simply being blissful ! 

What a wonderful experience ! Totally floating and dancing ! There is an air of shere joy and happiness within most of the time . We are always full of energy .

If it is a person , and that person also expresses love or says so , a magical sense of connection happens . There is a glow and electrical tingling vibration all around us ! My body seems to be vibrating at some other frequency ! I can feel my body and face glowing or flushing ! I fill warm ! My heart is beating faster ! The rush of heightened energy can be felt so much more and easily .

It is like my energy tanks are getting filled up !

I become so much more alife ! My needs for physical food , material needs are diminished !

I am feeling high , as though on some energy enhancing drug ! I am actually high !

The other think I experience is that there is a wonderful joy of just sharing or giving the love .

There is more joy in sharing and giving ! The satisfaction is in giving ! The paradoxical experience is that as we give , we also at the same time feel so good and fulfilled!

All these wonderful feelings are so magical that our very physical body too responds differently .

Love is really an amazing experience. It is non physical and yet it effects all our world and life . We live so much more happier . We have a good natured , warm attitude towards all of life .

As we look around , even the colours of everything appear brighter and vibrating with some energy .

The taste of everything is better . all senses are at a peak !

There is a kind of light heartedness , exuberance , excitement , joyfulness all over us !

It is not some imagination , not at all ! A new reality is being felt .

This magical and mysterious feelings of love is all happening within us ! Nothing physical is being taken from the outside ! A whole new energy is being generated from within us !

We are doing it with the thoughts and feelings that we call or label as loving ! 

As we start to understand more of this wonderful love energy , we can tap into it always and at will !

I will keep sharing or writing to express how we can become aware that we are all Love Beings in our real nature !! As we have forgotten that , we go about all our life searching for that wonderful love , when it always within us !!

Will end now , but will share more .

Take care and Love .

Good night . Till we meet again .

Amar.

Self Care and Self Respect Towards a Balanced Life !

Self Care and Self Respect Towards a Balanced Life !

My dear wonderful friends around the world ! Especially those who are online and sometimes get glued to the strange world of the Virtual world ! I have to share my personal experience with you !

This is a sort of self confession and also insight into my very own life and behaviour pattern in the past few weeks . I lead a very private and quiet life . Attentive to my patients as I am still practicing medicine and sitting back whenever free to just enjoy being me ! Yes , I read and sometimes felt a need to write . A relaxed and peaceful living as I gently approach the wonderful matured stage that I call my Golden years ! 

Always living on the fringe of society and watching the many excitements , activities and dramas of the wonderful people ! It is really wonderful to watch how most of us are excited by rituals , customs and other trappings of our cultures !  As I always keep saying , there is no wrong or right to whatever you are doing, as long as you do no harm to others and , of course , to your good self !

My reason or point in writing this blog is to share my own observation about my own behaviour !

I , out of the blue , while flying back to Sydney , Australia , decided that I am going to come out of my comfort zone and am going to get serious about the great magic and mystery of the Internet , virtual world and the online way of  seeing this world ! So , from that day , which is just short of 3 months , I really got myself initiated to this online lifestyle . I can tell that it is fun and it can also be a bloody pain ! Anyway , I have made my mind and am going to keep going . For whatever reason , I just happen to come to Google+ and than to Blogger . 

Both these have been wonderful for a newbie like me ! I have really no idea what is all this about ! I am still running around daily and wondering what is all the fun or fuss about this Google+ and all the plus ! Anyway , I told myself to just be quiet and keep going . Just follow the great walk to perhaps Freedom or whatever ! I had read of the Great Chinese leader Mao who made his people walk to some freedom or whatever ! No disrespect the Chinese leader , please !

There are circles within circles that I am still struggling to understand ! So much for my status of being aware !! What ever the attraction , it is really a wonderful platform to really be connected to the whole wide world !! I just cannot believe how we are able to get so wonderfully connected all over the planet ! Awesome , amazing and just a miracle !! It is just so unbelievable and I really have to thank whoever , whatever for setting this wonderful platform ! I believe that it is just a matter of time and I will slowly begin to understand the rules or tricks of the game ! I am also aware that it is just a click away and I can ask anybody around the wonderful planet and somebody will response ! I just cannot believe that ! 

Now , I have expressed my joy and happy side ! 

What I want you to know is that you , me and all must also become aware that this game , life or whatever we want to call this can also become very demanding , addictive and time consuming !

We have to be aware that we need to take time off to see the blue sky , the birds that are singing and hopping from branch to branch . Children running about , stepping back to have a cup of coffee and just daydreaming ! To laugh with near and dear ones who are wondering where I have disappeared to!

I am talking of Self-Care . It is important to take care of ourselves . To rest , sleep and balance our life. It is the most important relationship that we need to respect ! The relationship with ourselves .

I just felt that I had to write this blog . It was important . I feel it is the right thing to say to my wonderful and dear friends . 

Will end here, Please take care .

Till we meet again .

Amar.

Having A Relationship With Myself !

Having a Relationship with Myself !

Over the years , I realised that I have been busy having relationships or creating relationships with everybody around . Well , that is how we humans have been told  to have a good pleasant life .

I realised that I too want to have a good relationship with myself ! I want to live my life on my own terms ! It took me sometime to understand what ' my own terms ' meant !

By default , we acquire alots of information , knowledge , conditions , beliefs and so much more from everybody around that I realised had little relevance as to how I wanted to live !

Living on my terms means that I want to have my choices as to how I want to live deliberately . 

It does not happen just like that . In fact , living on ones terms can be very challenging as everybody around wants you to live on their terms ! They set the rules and agenda as to how I am suppose to live or conduct myself .

I realised that if I don't take charge of my life , somebody is going to  decide how I should live. They will control , manipulate and corner us to live to serve them and their purpose ! There is always some agency out there waiting to take over your one good life that you have !

Biology wants to replicate the genetic material , culture will make sure that we propagate it's values and institutions . Other people will try to take as much of our energy as possible to further their own agenda -all of this without regard to how any of this will affect you .

We cannot expect anyone to help us live , we have to discover how to do it ourselves !

We acquire habits without even being aware if they are useful to us !

I had or have so many habits that really don't serve me much . I . of course , have been made to belief that those are good for me or for my awareness to my life and living . I will share with you just one to illustrate my point . I used to get up and go straight to reading the newspaper ! I will want to know what is happening in the world . I must listen to the news too ! All these life centred around the media maybe good but it also has some very unhealthy side effects ! I get up feeling peaceful and contented with the starting of another wonderful lovely day . I enjoyed my quiet moments in my inner stillness .
I appreciate the magic of little things and am grateful . A bird's sweet song . The freshness of the morning . The smell of a warm toasted bread . A cup of coffee . Everything is just right or even perfect ! ( whatever that means ! )

This one habit can pull me away from my peaceful and fulfilled life ! I am talking of rushing to read or hear the news ! Being sensitive , I can easily become concerned , upset , worried and even angry with the way our world is being run ! That's it ! My peaceful morning is now in tatters !
The day I decided to do away with this habit of wanting to know the news , I found a whole new peace that was always around me ! Let me share with you what happened when I first stopped going for the news . I actually had withdrawal symptoms !! I started getting worried . I started feeling fearful . I had all sorts of concerns about nothing in particle . I really had to reassure myself that all will be okay. The world can go on very well without my input !! What a nightmare or daymare I had to go for the first few days !!

Now , some 4 years later , I cannot understand the fuss we actually make over so many issues !
I have not read a single newspaper since than ! Has my world stopped . Has the real world stopped ! I am still as sensitive as before or even more so now ! With my inner peace , I can feel more .
I do get a quick glimpse of the news on the TV and that's it . Now , I am in control . I am more connected to the issues of the world now than ever before . This is just one habit that I over came and felt that I have a better control of my life . There are many more that I will share as we go along .

This is enough for today . My main point is to be aware of the fact , that we need to take control of ourselves or somebody will do that for us !! In fact , it is already happening !
Take care of your self and get closer to yourself . Learn to FLY ! First Love Yourself !
Til we meet again , take care .
And , yes , please love yourself !
Good night .
Amar.

Love : What does it all Mean ?

Love : What does it all Mean ?

Let me share my personal out pouring about love !

What does love mean ? What is love ?

I am actually wondering , amazed and enjoying at the word love . It is such an over charged and loaded word. We use it so easily and comfortably . It means so many things to so many people that I am not sure what it really means anymore !

This most wonderful feeling and emotion is universal to all humans across all cultures , races and religions . It is a complex and complicated emotion .

In the name of love we kill and get killed !

In the name of love we care and become careless !

We become useful in love and also abusive in love !

Love is peaceful , love is violent !

Love heals , love kills !

Genuine love among lovers can be seen as a morally wrong issue and many a lover throughout history had to pay a heavy price ! After their death , we sing praises , write stories and recite poems in their honour ! We kill our most lovable people and than we build statues , religions and what not after we have destroyed them ! We are a strange species !

Now look at the kind of love we have ! We become so possessive , attached , demanding , selfish that the very love that we are suppose to enjoy becomes a misery and starts to suffocate us !

Love can be so freeing ,liberating and selfless that one once to dance , sing and enjoy .

Love is so intoxicating that being in love is the highest drug to achieve happiness and joy .

On the other hand , we have love that is controlling , manipulative , corrupted , fearful and suppressive! 

In the name of love we can be so creative and constructive and motivated . Nothing inspires us as love can ! As , someone said , give him an army of motivated lovers and they will be able to perform miracles !

Love constricts and love expands .

Love is all around and yet some have never experiences it !

Some say , love is blind , love is madness !

Love is simply beyond any mans concepts .

We can express or explain love in any form or style .

Sometimes , I feel that the word means nothing and everything at the same time !

Love is a feeling , a thinking , a seeing , a touching , smelling , a tasting . It can be expressed by all senses and beyond to !

In Tantric tradition , which was practiced or may still be practiced in some parts of India , love was taken to a whole new level ! Love with the whole body/mind through the power of sex was a way to being one with the creative Oneness ! 

Much of ancient Hinduism and even today is around the energies that we have and are ! Love is the most awesome energy that we have and yet few can really understand its nature !

Love can take us to very low moral levels and the same love can also take us to the highest levels possible .

We can become an animal in love or we can also become a god !

We have conditions in love and now we also have unconditional love !

Conditions I can understand or accept . What is unconditional love ? 

If I don't care for outcomes , results or any expectations , is that unconditional love ?!

Is just letting it be as you or I wish known as love without conditions ?!

I am still wanting to understand unconditional love ?

Is God's love unconditional ? ( What , Who or Whatever that means , please don't ask me ! )

Is God loving or non loving ?! I personally don't want to go in that direction today .

So , love is complex and complicated , as I just told you some time ago .

Love had conditions , I can understand ! Unconditional love just means what ? I am still working at that . Maybe , we should express conditionally unconditional love !! 

What is that ? I simply don't know !

Love is No-thing and it is Everything ! 

I end here today .

Til we meet again .

Love.

Amar.

Choose Between Addicitive Love and Love That Is All !

Choose Between Addictive Love and Love That Is All !

Let me tell the sad and frustrating situation I find myself everyday ! Wonderful and so called normal people come to me because they are in the most miserable of situations where even taking their lives seems the only or accepted situation ! Yes ! These feelings and thoughts can really drive anyone crazy ! The emotional state or feelings are so over powering that we are caught like prisoners in their grip ! People who are caught in this very serious addictive love are in a very unstable place . They are not in any normal position to judge or decide what is right and wrong ! They are trapped in the grey area where the thin line between normal and abnormal has faded .

I just saw a client of this evening . A young , smart 27 year old man . As usual , he came completely devastated and a broken person . He was brought by kind people who saw how miserable has state was.

He actually had attempted suicide , but , thank Whatever , it was not successful .

As I allowed him to pour out his story , it was the same familiar story that I have been hearing for over 40 years ! It does not matter which part of the world I go to ! I have heard these stories in India , New Zealand , Australia and Malaysia . I know from my readings and colleagues that it is the same all over the planet . All Humans share the same emotional code ! It does not matter what colour your skin is , it does not matter what culture , religion , race or nationality you are ! We all have the same nature .

In addictive love we are just caught and trapped within the grip of the love feeling . We constantly need to get our daily quota or fix to keep us going or we start to get the withdrawal symptoms !

Mentally , physically and emotionally we are just not in this present moment ! Just read, The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle and you will get a clear picture of how we get trapped in this vicious cycle of the past and the future ! The present disappears ! All of the past issues are our regrets and depressions! The future is always full of anxiety and worries ! The only place to be is missing !

Addictive love is continuously expecting , demanding and beyond reason or logic ! It just wants it's way like a small child throwing tantrums !

Only when you realise or become aware that there is actually another better and enjoyable way of loving and being in that state , that you start to understand the wonderful magic of love .

Love is the very core nature of our beingness . It is all that we are ! However , we have wrapped ourselves in layers of belief systems , traditions and dogmas , that we are unable to see how wonderful is our true nature !

Love is the only mysterious energy that can keep expanding endlessly ! We enjoy it and also keep giving all around the same or even more joy ! That love is spoken by all great Masters who understood who or what we are ! Love does not need to be begged , it needs to be expressed fully and joyfully . That love is liberating and free .

Now , you have to seriously make a choice if you want to create heaven on Earth or keep trapped in the dark side of human nature .

I can keep writing endlessly ! Look around at the amount of wonderful books written by such loving and wonderful people . Just get up and walk towards the beautiful highway where you will experience the never ending bliss of true love !

Till we meet again . Thank you for your patience .

Dr Dhali /Amar.